How far can I flex before I break?
I’m not sure if it’s my allergies or the constant overwhelm or just being an ‘old fart’ but lately I’m feeling really pissy about being asked to flex and change.
And, for some reason this morning I got thinking about Gumby.
Gumby arrived as a regular ‘performer’ on TV screens in 1957, the year I turned 10. And, it’s not that I watched Gumby and his sidekick Pokey all that much. At age 10 I was more interested in reading ‘adult books like the copy of Harold Robbins the ‘Dream Merchants’ I filched from my dad’s bookshelf.
Yet, somehow that pea green, claymation figure keept coming to mind today. I guess it’s because Gumby seemed able to flex, bend, and stretch far and wide … something I seem both less able AND less willing to do.
Yet, as a coach, counsellor, and consultant I encourage my client’s to flex their style of leadership, of communication; to change to meet the needs of their followers, their customers, and their colleagues.
Am I a hypocrite for encouraging this?
I sure hope not. Though I sometimes feel that way. After all I sometimes fail to heed my own advice.
But, let’s get back on point.
How far should you flex and change in order to ‘work with’, to get along with, to stay in relationship with, to be with another?
When is enough, enough?
That’s a question each of has to answer for ourselves.
But, I know that for me I’m feeling less and less like I want to be as flexible, as willing to change to meet the other ‘half way’, as I used to.
Am I an old cranky puss for saying that? Maybe.
But, this I know for sure … Yes, it is important to be flexible. Yes, it is critical to ‘see the other persons point of view’. Yes, it is necessary to practice empathy. And, yes it is vital to change and grow.
But, god damn it, that doesn’t mean that for you and I to do business or for you and I to work together effectively; I have to become Gumby!
