Fear is useful… when it warns us of real danger(s). It ceases being useful when it paralyzes us, keeps us stuck, and prevents us from reaching our dreams. Overcoming fear isn’t easy. But, it need not be horrendously difficult. Kicking fear in the teeth doesn’t have to be a big, bold gesture. In fact, it…
When I was in graduate school pursuing my Masters in Organization Development I struggled with fear. Particularly, fear that I couldn’t pay for the sucker. As a self-employed consultant I didn’t have the luxury of a company paying my tution and expenses — I WAS the company. One of the ways I sorted through my…
I love asking questions. They’re so darn useful. And, can be used in so many ways. Even to help deal with fear. And, to get rid of it. How? <– there’s that question thing again. When you feel afraid: take a breath, take another, then ask yourself, "What’s behind this fear?" Often our fears are…
Wondering where Tip #1 is? I published it earlier today in my newsletter Creative Careers Unleashed! You can read it here Better yet, why don’t you subscribe and enjoy bi-weekly intelligence for intelligent, creative, multi-talented professionals. To subscribe send a blank e-mail to on-233@ezezine.com So, how else can you Kick Fear in the Teeth? I…
Ground Hog Day! What a curious ritual. Particularly in the age of the Internet, trips to Saturn, and such. And, yet we mock the Greeks who consulted the entrails of animals. Perhaps the problem is simply that in this day and age we are shy of rituals and reasons to celebrate things au natural. The…
Are you a perfectionist? Does everything have to be just so? That’ great. But, it can set us up to get stuck. Or, at least to make progress very, very slowly. The solution? Don’t worry about making mistakes or doing it wrong. In most situations you’ll have the chance to do it over, change it….
When you’re emotionally stuck and deep breathing by itself doesn’t work. Try this. Focus on the feeling, the emotion. Put a name to it, if you can. Now, intensify the emotion. Make it bigger. Make it stronger. Really ramp it up! When it’s at it’s full fury, do this. Imagine it’s something tangible, something you…
Sometimes you’re stuck because of your feelings or emotions keep you grounded in the current apparent ‘reality’. That is, your emotions block out signals from the outside world. Signals that could help you move or change. What to do? Take a deep, deep breath. Then take three more deep breaths. Has the emotion waned or…
The first step to getting unstuck is obvious… Recogize you’re stuck! Sounds easy. But, sometimes it’s not. That’s because we can be really, really good at fooling ourselves. We say, “I’m not stuck. I’m just need time to think about my options.” Or, “I’m not stuck. I’m just frustrated.” Or, “I’m not stuck. I’m just…
When you’ve been stuck for a long time, it’s easy to become fixated on Why. Why me? Why am I so stuck? Why can’t I get free? And, around and around you go. There are times when it makes sense to ask why? This isn’t one of them. Asking why will just put you in…